To trust is to know.

Who is your current best friend? I don’t have a best friend. Okay… Who is your closest friend?

Remember when you didn’t know that person existed and how you moved from there to know they did exist and how that graduated into the friendship you both now share. Were you sceptical at first or did you jump into the friendship wide armed with your biggest grin? Most likely not.

I don’t have a best friend like you. (I’m assuming you are one of the ‘I don’t have a best friend people’). However, I have a couple of close buddies. Let me tell you about E!

I met E while volunteering at an event. I pretty much walked past him a couple of times without noticing he was there. Anyways, E comes to my service point multiple times a day generously throwing adjectives at me. My first thought was, Are you a Yoruba demon of some kind or just a very kind person? Thankfully, my watchword for that season had been “know no man after the flesh”. We got to have proper conversations and I realized how kind-hearted and gracious E was. He asked to be my friend (Yes! I accept friend requests in real life).

You already know I said yes. (That’s the only reason he’s being featured here). My friendship with E has grown in leaps and bounds from that first ‘Hello, hi!’. Now, thinking of E as a Yoruba demon would never cross my mind. Beyond not being able to think about him in that light, I’d be upset if I heard anyone refer to him by that phrase, or maybe not. Maybe I will understand that the phrase was a by-product of learned distrust from past experiences. Beyond being unable to imagine E as a Yoruba Demon, I know E – voice tones and sound, response to situations, abilities and inabilities.

Time and again, human relations have taught us to approach the topic of trust with utmost care. When we think trust, our first thought is to tread with caution, doubt and even suspicion. Sadly, these experiences have invariably affected the way we relate with God and His promises. You think about your archive of promises and wonder when they will come to pass. You see the impossibility God is asking you to step into and scepticism and self-preservation step in.

Deep beneath every side-eye at God’s promises and words is the question, Can I trust God? In relationships that lack trust, both parties suffer. The one holding back from vulnerability and the one being held back from. Think about the one time you were accused of doing something disloyal in a relationship where all you’ve ever done was try to make it work – an unpleasant experience, I guess.

Do you want to learn to believe in God’s words?

Do you want to learn to know God? If you’ve read this far, your answer is a yes.

My friends, trust is learned. We don’t just happen on it. You can learn to trust God. You can learn to believe in him by simply learning about him.


The same thing that comes to mind when we are asked for the keys to maintaining relationships – Communication. Here are some ways you can communicate with an unseen God:

The Word of God (The Bible):

But these have been written so that you may believe [with a deep, abiding trust] that Jesus is the Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed), the Son of God; and that by believing [and trusting in and relying on Him] you may have life in His name. [John 20:31 AMP].

Study the word, my friends. It was put together to help you believe. In studying, you learn the character of God. You learn of His ways and the depth of his commitment to you.

Let me tell you some stories;

Sarah was married to Abraham – God’s buddy! At some point in their friendship, God says, “I have made you a father of many nations”. Sarah believes and her hope for a child goes up in multiples. She gets really tired of this wait but maintains her cool. Some angels came around and Abraham being the nice guy he was invited them in and entertained them. Pleased by their host, they promise him a son in 9months. Sarah forgot for a second that she was eavesdropping from behind the door. She burst into a laughter I imagine to be a mix of sarcasm, sadness and surrender as in retreat. The angels understood her scepticism, so they let her be while reinstating their promise of a son. Guess what? She had one 9 months later! I bet you’ve sang that song about the God of Abraham, Issac and Jacob. That’s the Issac!

Then, there was Elizabeth, married to Zechariah. Good people. They kept God’s commandments, obeyed his laws, they were even a family of priests! They also we’re without a child. One day, an angel came with glad tidings! She was going to bear a son. The angel appears to her husband too with a blueprint of what the boy’s life would look like. John turned out to be the forerunner of his cousin Jesus. He laid the very foundation of the salvation we now freely enjoy.

Then there was Hannah with no kids. Her co-wife was literally being mean to her. This woman had been praying and crying to God because she knew deep down that he was her only way. Anyways, a couple of events and she gave birth to Samuel! The prophet whose words never fell to the ground.

Imagine stumbling on or intentionally studying these stories as you wait for a child. Oh! What hope it will bring to your soul. The excitement in you knowing that you are not just expecting any child but a child of promise! Your newly found boldness as you stare the devil in the eye with these testimonies as you anticipate yours! The weight of guilt and pain is being lifted off you as you study!


Meditation is a practice where an individual uses a technique – such as mindfulness or focusing the mind on a particular object, thought, or activity – to train attention and awareness, and achieve a mentally clear and emotionally calm and stable state. (Wikipedia)

Meditation is, basically, digesting all that you took in while studying the word. It brings life and tangibility to the intangible letters.

In the place of meditating on the salvation of the thief on the cross and the Saul to Paul conversion, you realize that there is hope for salvation for your unbelieving relative far gone as they might be.

How to: Find a quiet time and space, spend that time thinking about the verse or chapter you’ve been studying. Ask the Holy Spirit to breathe on your imagination as you think through these verses and their life applications.


Prayer is talking to God and listening to him talk back to you.

Pray. Pray. Pray. Feel free to start up a conversation with him in prayer any day, place or time. In prayers, God reveals himself to you in different dimensions. In prayer, you behold God face to face. Face to Face! It doesn’t get any better than that, does it? The act of praying is easy, simple, and one of the most organic things ever.

Early in Elizabeth Gilbert’s bestselling memoir Eat, Pray, Love, she writes: “Hello, God. How are you? I’m Liz. It’s nice to meet you. . . . I haven’t ever spoken directly to you before.” And then she starts to cry. “Can you please help me? I am in desperate need of help. I don’t know what to do.” As her tears subside, she experiences a peace “so rare,” she says, “that I didn’t want to exhale, for fear of scaring it off. . . . I didn’t know when I’d ever felt such stillness. Then I heard a voice. . . . It was not an Old Testament Hollywood Charlton Heston voice, nor was it a voice telling me I must build a baseball field in my backyard. It was merely my own voice. . . . But this was my voice as I had never heard it before.”

See? Elizabeth didn’t have to do so much. You don’t either.

I will leave you with this verse of the bible.
Those who know your name will trust in you. Psalm 9:10A

I pray that these words draw you into intimacy with God and that intimacy teaches you to rest in God and his promises knowing that he is God, he is good, no word he speaks falls to the ground and that he is so sure of His words that he honours it over His name. Amen.

Song Recommendation
Communion by Maverick Music.

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